On our table today...

Turkey

 Mac & Cheese


String Beans and red Onions


Tilapia in lemon butter sauce


Plantain fritters (mosa)


Apple Pie


Sweet Potato pie


Icecream

Thanksgiving

I am excitedly looking forward to Thanksgiving tommorow. The turkey is thawing nicely, the food items have been purchased, and are sitting patiently in the fridge. Can't wait to start cooking.

This year, i am thankful for so many things including:

• The grace and love God has showered my family and I with
• My husband and marriage
• Good health
• The lives of my parents and siblings
• Provision
• Our Jobs
• Protection
• Peace and Joy that reigns in our home

Thank you faithful, dependable, and merciful  God. I appreciate and love you so much.

Have a happy and memorable thanksgiving!

A New Wife

The party is over, the lights are out, honeymoon’s done, we have returned back to work, the well-wishers have stopped calling, the “Marriage” has just begun, and I am becoming  more aware of this new reality .

I came in with expectations, so  specific that I could rattle them off if you woke me up from sleep. Everything from the daily management of the home to the five year projection of our marriage, I had it all planned out in my head. We talked about it, we agreed on it, we had a plan, or so I thought.

I longed for the “ideal” home they talked about at the numerous marriage seminars I attended before the wedding. The kind I saw growing up where there is mutual understanding, daily devotion and study of the bible, most of all a commitment to make the marriage successful. I thought I was working towards that kind of marriage. I was a believer in “full disclosure” regarding finances, and everything that could impact the other person. We disclosed everything! Left no stone unturned. We prayed. We did everything we thought was right. I thought we had started off on the right foot to make this union successful.

Four months down the line, I realize that a lot of adjustment is needed. The biggest challenge and one I am still grappling with is the idea of “the two becoming one”.  

·         How do I become one with someone who is so liberal financially and in other areas as well? I am super conservative.

·         How do I become one with someone who I feel is not as committed to making this marriage successful?

Recently I started asking myself why I got married. I wanted an amiable fellow to wade through the trials and triumphs of life together. Someone who I could laugh with, bare out my heart to, cry with, make loads of money with, positively impact the lives of people around us with, someone who I was confident in, who was smart enough to navigate this world with, who shared similar values and beliefs.  Most of all, someone who was committed to what we share – This was the bedrock for me.

I thought I was getting this and much more… recent events make me question this. I am holding out hope though that it's just the rough first phase.  This begs me to ask, what was the first couple months of marriage like for you?

Cake and Socks

Welcome to Cake and Socks, a journal where i  document my thoughts and anything  that piques my interest.  Cakes and Socks are some of my favorite things. I like cute socks like these Betsy Johnson's and delectable cakes like those from Patisserie Poupon.

Please visit often, i am sure we will have good times together.